Well are you? Comfort eating, I mean. It sounds to me as if you have gained weight for a number of reasons? Did you lose weight looking after your DH and have just put it back on? Are you actually overweight for your height and build. I am, although not massively, but I could definitely do with losing a stone or more!
I’m sorry to hear about your DH and your own health decline since he died. Perhaps a word with your GP might help, if you’re feeling low? I hope you have friends and family for support and companionship?
After my DH died, I found it difficult to cook for one and ended up eating more, until I sorted out portion control. I’d also ‘treat’ myself to coffee and cake when out - now it’s just the coffee. It was becoming a habit.
Are you actually hungry, or just eating out of boredom? Would just a drink do instead? Do you snack or graze all day? Perhaps you could find something to do to take your mind off eating? I’m ‘addicted’ to Tunnocks Caramel Wafers’ and simply need to stop buying them! I kept a diary of everything I ate in a week and it was shocking! It’s easy to subconsciously munch through a packet of biscuits when glued to the TV. Have you looked at the fat/sugar content on your foods - perhaps adjust your purchases?
Pregabalin definitely increased my DH’s appetite, so that could be a factor, but if it’s a med that works for you, probably very necessary.
Under normal circumstances, the phrase ‘eat less, do more’ comes to mind, but your physical limitations must be taken into account.
I hope there are other GNs perhaps in similar circumstances who can offer a bit of advice.
Take care.