As a singer, am always busy doing rehearsals and concerts and carols etc during this time , and am a widow , living on my own now. On another thread wrote about my sisters way of getting time alone. , Tell everyone you are going away , lock the door and do your own thing! So I have done a few different things. Have arranged to meet up for a short walk with another friend who lives alone. Have been to family, but did find it very painful in missing my lovely husband so much and trying not to spoil other peoples pleasure. A useful tip is that as a gardener , for many many years I have always gone round my garden at some stage on christmas day and again on new years day. Gets you a little time away from stress and hassle, and writing them all down - or these days taking photos, and if you live in the same place you can look back later at what was there on other years etc. Another time I thought of going away, but as a yorkshire woman was appalled at the high price of the christmas trips and so I decided to stay at home. By my own choice , I just did ordinary things and ate normal meals , loved listening to wonderful Bach Matthew Passion without anyone wrecking it. Then let things settle down and went away for a few days in January and it was peaceful and good offers. Also look out for special offers. There is a lovely restaurant called the Angel at Hetton and generally out of our price range. Because they have people staying for christmas package and another of New year they need to keep the staff on in between those dates , so when my husband was alive we used to go on 27th -30th on special offer . I have done that with another place on my own, and do actually find it less stressful as there are not loads of big family groups there then reminding you even more that you are alone. .In the first couple of years I found it just too painful to go to places we had gone together and looked for places that he had not been so that the reminders were not so painful. Eventually you can go to your special places and be glad to remember your time there together but not for a while. Gransnet and Restless are my places to be able to waffle on and read lots of interesting posts and learn about different things. Today awake in a lot of pain at 5.15am. Dont want to wake neighbours etc , but I can creep around and type making no noise, so it was pitch black and raining outside and I was able to make a drink and look at emails and see what people had to say. Great, not bothering anyone else, you can all read my screed and decide not to if it has no interest or seems like rubbish. It has already served its purpose in allowing me to let off steam a bit , know that you are all out there with generally good and kind wishes and helps you not to feel totally alone mentally even if you are physically. Havent got round to thinking of it this year . We have bonfire night to enjoy first before thinking too far ahead , but think if I am here I shall probably be listening to radio 3 and will see who is around and we can catch up and chat. best wishes and good luck with whatever you decide to do