Looks like DiL is having a miscarriage

Sending you and your family (((hugs))) have been where you are too many times.

Just be there when they need you 🌸🌸🌸

You are providing essential support by looking after their DD .... a heartfelt hug can be worth a thousand words....

Is this really something to post about? Something to share on a public forum?

You don't need to say anything, just be there for them.
So sad for all of you 😔

Strange comment GSM. I thought this was a forum for sympathy and advice.
If I have misunderstood to entire reason for Gransnet then I will delete. Just about to put DGD to bed. Then see what to do.

Something very private that I would never dream of sharing with random strangers. Absolutely anyone, male , female, anywhere in the world can read GN posts.

I agree with GSM

Please do not let them see you sad

I don't think there's anything anyone can say. It's sad, they will be sad and anything that you might say won't take that away. I f they do lose the child, just be sad with them and allow them to grieve.

Please do not let them see you sad why ever not? If DiL does miscarry it is a very sad occasion.
I agree with foxie48

GSM - I think the OP was feeling down and wanted to talk to people who are distanced from the sad situation.
Lizbethann - Don’t say anything to your son. Just be there for them. Looking after your DGD will be a great help for them. Although a miscarriage looks likely, I hope your d.I.l. and son have the strength to cope with whatever happens .

I had two “threatened miscarriages’”, that is, bleeding in early pregnancy. I was very scared, but it stopped after a few weeks. Outcome - two very healthy full-term babies.

All you can do is look after your DGD and smile supportively. Very sad for the family 💐

Just be there for them, that's all you can do. You cannot change things and nothing is certain in this life.

I was in a similar situation, admitted to hospital by ambulance, for a D&C, (I had only had my pregnancy confirmed the day before) but there was no bed for me. The only available bed available was in the local maternity hospital, where I had a scan. I was lying in bed distraught when a nurse held my hand and told me not to give up hope.
She was right, my DD is now 39 years old. I did spend the rest of the pregnancy in hospital.
What is meant to be will be.

Sorry to hear this Lizbethan.
You’re doing your bit by looking after your granddaughter.
Hope for the best for you all.
If the worst should happen I’m sure you’ll find the right way to support them.

Op is here to support them if needed, not to add to their grieving

This is how some people complain others make the situation about them

You are obviously a loving MIL, Lizbethann55. of course you are upset.💐

Lizbethann55 sorry to read of the sadness hanging over your family this evening. I’m sure you will be a great support to your Dil and son.

Hithere why so harsh and insensitive?

Sorry to hear this Lizbethan you and your family must be so sad. It's good you can be there for your granddaughter and support everyone. You have my sympathy.

I think there are some very inappropriate responses . Of course it is ok to share this on GN. Isn't it the idea of this forum to seek support in the difficulties we all face at times in life? Lizbethann is a regular poster. I'm sorry your family are in this situation but hopefully happier times lie ahead and your DIL will come to terms with this loss x

I since hope GN has given you some advice and comfort. Looking after your GD is the best thing you can do just now , her parents will be very relieved and secure in the knowledge she is safe and happy with you. Just be there, they will know how sorry you are and who knows all may be well , but if not show sympathy and sadness but try be strong too.
Don't be hesitant to continue posting because of some negative responses.
It is a very worrying and sad time. Thinking of you and your family, fingers 🤞 for your DIL and your DS. 💐💐

An after thought, my daughter bled in the early stages of pregnancy and I was very worried for her. DD delivered a healthy baby who is now 8 years old and thriving!!

Sending kindest thoughts to you and your family

Words are not always needed at times . Presence is enough. Don’t let the GN stiff upper lips worry you either 🌸

Lizbethann55, I found that my DiL appreciated practical things such as coming home to meals in fridge and no laundry to wash, house clean and tidy. She already knew how sad we were.