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Is there anyone I can contact?

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Shandy57 Sun 03-Apr-22 11:56:01

I know of an 86 year old woman living alone in a 3 bed house, she has been diagnosed with dementia and it is getting worse. She is no longer able to cook meals for herself. She does not have any family nearby, and is not friends with any of her neighbours.

Her daughter lives a distance away, and has LPOA. She visits rarely.

Is there anyone a 'friend' can contact to express concern?

JaneJudge Sun 03-Apr-22 11:58:45

This has some good advice on with links provided

www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/worried-about-someone/

MissAdventure Sun 03-Apr-22 12:01:48

I would think that adult social services might be the best people to contact, or age uk, to see what they advise.

You would need to raise a safeguarding concern (safeguarding being the key word) as the poor soul is vulnerable to all sorts of potential harm.

Smileless2012 Sun 03-Apr-22 12:04:21

You could try contacting Adult Social Services and give them any information you have about her relatives; names and where they live or if you can do so yourself, contact her D expressing your concerns.

You could do this as well as contacting ASS or wait and see if her family respond to your concerns.

Shandy57 Sun 03-Apr-22 12:42:18

Thank you.

This person has been ill for weeks and the daughter has finally visited. She took her to A&E and she was hospitalised overnight, testing positive with Covid, and released with medication. The daughter is 'staying for a few days'.

I know this person has savings that can be used for her initial care, and owns her house outright.

Thank you for the link JaneJudge.

MissAdventure Sun 03-Apr-22 12:45:14

Sad, isn't it, really?
It's not for the faint hearted, this getting older lark. sad
Lucky there are people around who notice these issues and help.

The poor soul must have been feeling rotten.

JaneJudge Sun 03-Apr-22 12:45:36

They shouldn't reallt release people from hospital without doing an occupational therapy assessment first but it seems because of covid they are doing this and so many people are being left vulnerable when they get home.

MissAdventure Sun 03-Apr-22 12:48:19

It's always happened here, given half a chance.
I've played cat and mouse with the hospital many a time because they wanted to send my mum home and I knew she wasnt well enough.

Knittingnovice Sun 03-Apr-22 12:53:49

You're very kind to notice and help and you're a great neighbour to have.