I know it is early, well it is for some! but my in-laws are coming down in a few days to collect their Xmas gifts from my partner. They are his cousins and aunt and uncle—all adults. We were not prepared at all. We do this gift swap each year, and frankly, I think it is silly. Am I being rude? They travel from quite far, but this year it is to visit friends primarily and then see us do this traditional gift swap. Each swaps a bag full of gifts. It's been relatively expensive for us in the past as there are four people to buy a gift we spend around £300 plus minus, in total.
On the other hand, they usually give us gifts we would never use and are inexpensive. They buy alcohol for my partner, who does not drink, so no thought either. I suggested to my partner to give each couple a gift, e.g., a bottle of wine and a card. instead of buying something for each person. Is this a strong tradition here? Where I am from, we don't exchange gifts at Xmas unless you are a child or a partner/parent. We are delighted to gift his parents as they are in our lives, and we know them well. Plus, I have a son, an adult, and his child we gift. I know it is the spirit of things, but every year I feel this pressure, and well, also, money is tight. They have their own business, which is flourishing, but we do not. My partner's parents put a lot of pressure on us to buy the gifts as they want to please them I suppose? I think that we should make our own choices who we gift and how much we spend. What do you think?