Well I’ve been on here for a few weeks and my relationship with my AS and DIL is hanging by a thread . I’ve maintained contact with my son weekly but anyone who’s read my posts will understand the complexity of the situation. I’m trying to give him space , which is following a lot of good advice I’ve been given in here . I’m quite unwell mentally and there are other things going on in my life adding a further layer of complication . I’ve got a lady helping me from MIND the mental health charity who feels that my health is suffering as a direct result of this possible estrangement on the horizon. She’s given me another perspective, which is simply life is too short to allow all this petty behaviour to come between us . Yes , whilst I’m taking my sons’s views and wishes into account, she’s told me quite bluntly that life really is too short for all this . I agree but I don’t know how to convey this to my son without it sounding like a platitude, maybe coming across like emotional blackmail or whatever. Saying life is too short is something I know only too well , but my son is 30 years old , never suffered any real hardship or trauma in his life so believes that life will always be good ( I think so anyway) . He doesn’t appreciate that in the blink of an eye life as we know it can be over , ruined . So , by continuing with this feud , which started of as something which could have been talked about and sorted out , the rest of our lives could potentially be ruined . I am sure he does not want to be estranged from me , certainly not for ever . It is my belief that he’s being at least influenced by his wife , which I can understand. The difference is , within our scenario, her own mother is not being cut out so I feel that things are not equal. I don’t understand why his wife should want him to destroy his relationship with me , other than the fact she doesn’t want to share , or maybe she’s never really liked me , who knows ? I thought we had a great relationship before she became pregnant , but the whole family dynamics have changed with the sudden death of my partner in January 2023. I didn’t notice subtle changes happening- well you don’t when you deep in the quagmire of grief . I’m still grieving, it’s still early days for me and I am struggling . I desperately want to just tell my son and DIL life is too short for all this crap , but I just don’t know where to start . Any ideas GNetters ? Thank you xxxx
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