I have three grown up children, two of whom live abroad and only my daughter lives in the UK about 60 miles from me. Ii’ve been divorced for years and live on my own. I have hobbies but don’t have friends or family. Christmas for solos can be lonely so I’m grateful for my daughter.
Christmas has been hard for my children as I don’t get along with their father (he left us when our children were tiny, divorced me and married the woman he’d been having a long term affair with).
I see my daughter about 3 times a year as she has a high powered job. She’s getting married so I’m seeing her then and for her birthday before then. I generally travel up by public transport to see her. She last came to see me two years ago.
The last couple of Christmas’s I’ve either gone to my daughter’s, stayed over and travelled back Boxing Day or this year travelled to my daughter’s future mother in law’s stated and come back Boxing Day. My daughter sees her father and his family on Boxing Day.
I know this sounds awful and ungrateful but my daughter’s in laws are a nightmare! I’m quite introverted. The last couple of Christmas’s tend to be dominated by my daughter’s future in laws. My daughter and me just sit in silence while they all talk over each other. My daughter doesn’t talk to me much as she seems distracted most of the time.
I beginning to realise that this is how it will be for future Christmas’s. I know it’s quite a distance for her and her fiancée to come and see me. I love my daughter very much and appreciate how much she tries to include me. I just find this Christmas’s with her family incredibly lonely as they don’t show any interest me and don’t listen if I talk.
I’ve been mulling over to deal with this without hurting daughter’s feelings. I’ve thought about booking a few days away and tell her when she mentions Christmas next year. I don’t want to be a burden to her but on the other hand I feel that the in laws and her father are sitting in their homes and being visited.
I’m travelling to see her for her birthday and staying two nights in a hotel for her wedding.
I could invite her to see me but she has her in laws and her father to consider. I just can’t face spending Christmas with my ex husband and his family.
I don’t know how to approach without damaging my relationship with my daughter and future son in law.
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