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glennie59 Mon 25-Mar-24 14:41:42

My daughter gave birth at 20 weeks to her daughter Linnea. I want to acknowledge her as my 5th granddaughter but found myself stumbling over what to say when asked how old they all were.

BlueBelle Mon 25-Mar-24 14:51:58

Just say what happened
She’s my fifth grandchild and always will be, but she didnt survive beyond 20 weeks however she will always be remembered and loved by us all
Needs nothing more

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 25-Mar-24 14:55:06

I’m so sorry. Maybe give the ages of those who are living and say I also have a granddaughter Linnea who was born asleep in x year? I pray you will all find comfort. 💐

DamaskRose Mon 25-Mar-24 14:59:52

I’m so sorry Glennie, of course you want to acknowledge her. I think what Bluebelle said is best, don’t really like “born asleep”. flowers

Norah Mon 25-Mar-24 15:21:15

flowers I am so sorry.

Perhaps -- my granddaughter Linnea was born at 20 weeks and lives in Heaven with others in our family (If you believe that).

Iam64 Mon 25-Mar-24 15:34:32

Condolences glennie. You may find the suggestions here help you to reach your own choice of words x

V3ra Mon 25-Mar-24 15:42:45

glennie59 profound sympathies to all your family on the loss of little Linnea.
Would it work for you to simply say she was born too early at 20 weeks and sadly didn't survive?

Summerfly Mon 25-Mar-24 16:18:06

So very sorry Glennie. 💐

Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 25-Mar-24 16:59:14

V3ra has it best IMHO.

Smileless2012 Mon 25-Mar-24 17:04:14

My sincere condolences for you and your family Glennie flowers. I like V3ra's suggestion too.

maddyone Mon 25-Mar-24 17:25:50

I’m so sorry glennie flowers
There are a few suggestions on here that may help.

RosiesMaw Mon 25-Mar-24 17:58:23

I look out this pic every year on the anniversary of my first baby’s birth in 1973 and I still shed a tear.. Our only boy, he lived only 24 days but of course he was mine for the 9 months before he was born.
Sincere condolences - I do know how you must feel, one of our D’s “lost” her first much wanted baby at 14 weeks of pregnancy.
Whether a baby makes it to term, is still born or sudden infant death or for whatever reason, we still mourn that little life.
I think Bluebelle has put it so well.

crazyH Mon 25-Mar-24 18:09:58

My condolences- so sad 🥲

Grannyben Mon 25-Mar-24 18:16:52

What a beautiful name your granddaughter has. She will always be remembered by those who love her.

Whiff Mon 25-Mar-24 18:33:53

Glennie all I can say my mom lost her first baby at 22 weeks and she never forget it . They wouldn't tell her what sex the baby one but it was in 1953. As much as she loved me and my brother there was always a hole in my parents heart . It took them 3 years to get pregnant the first time and took 5 years to have me , my brother was born 16 months after me.

You feel a mom as soon as you find out you are pregnant and your daughter will always be Linnea's mom even if she has more children.

Whiff Mon 25-Mar-24 18:35:43

Sorry for the terrible spelling but bit upset at the moment. But didn't want to not say something. 💐

CanadianGran Mon 25-Mar-24 18:43:14

I am so sorry to hear this. I would maybe say that your granddaughter was born prematurely and didn't survive, which is true, but still acknowledges her loving existence.

Tenko Mon 25-Mar-24 18:52:02

Glennie , I’m so sorry to hear your sad news . My sister had two stillborn babies at 26 and 27 weeks. This was over 25 years ago . But we just said that they were stillborn

glennie59 Wed 27-Mar-24 22:39:03

Thank you all for your kind words and your suggestions. I feel more confident now on handling the question after reading your responses

nanna8 Wed 27-Mar-24 22:42:18

Very sad to hear your news and,yes, definitely acknowledge the little one. 🌼