Cat Sitting Dilemma

A constructive way forward would be for your daughter take the cat back and look after it, as adults are supposed to do when they get a pet.
Failing that, it would be kinder to rehome the cat with someone that actually wants it.

If its near to her home, then even better, because your grandson can visit "his' cat.

I would take cat around to your DD tomorrow. Job done.

Pop cat in a carrier and drop it back home....not your cat..not your problem...your DD sounds every selfish and entitled

I wouldnt tell her you are coming round, either.
I may not even say a word. Just give her the cat and return home.

Sorry but I don’t understand why she can’t look after the cat herself. Plenty of people have pets and babies - IMO I think there must be some other reason. You clearly don’t want the cat so just give it back to your daughter and if she doesn’t want the ‘hassle’ of looking after it then she can re home the puss.

Poor cat I don’t understand why it has to leave home I m sure most people that have cats with babies just keep it out the room the baby’s in !!!

I love my cats!

BUT

I would never inflict them on someone who didn't want to look after them.

You need to set some boundaries regarding this cat, which are entirely reasonable.

She gets all tests for the cat you've asked for.

Grandson visits cat three times a week on his way to/from school.

You should be able to go on your trips. You tell your daughter when you're going and SHE has to arrange for it to go to a cattery or grandson sorts the cat out. As you've already stated, he is entirely capable.

Give her a time frame to get these things done and if she doesn't then you either return the cat to her or take it to a rescue.

By taking in this cat you would be saving her hundreds of pounds in cattery fees.

It's the least she can do. She's only had a baby!

Oh, and she gets to pay for the cat food too.

Hope that helps a bit. Good luck 🤗

Why can’t the cat live at its home? We’ve always had cats around when I had babies and there was never a problem.

I’d return the cat to its home or tell your dd to book it into a cattery. Or get it rehomed because despite your GS’s claims, it sounds unwanted.

Poor unwanted cat. I don’t understand why it can’t live at home. Obviously your grandson has no interest in it and I don’t think your daughter has either. It would be better off living with someone who actually wants it.

I hate calling the cat ‘it’ but you have given no indication of sex, simply called it ‘cat’..

Poor cat, nothing but an inconvenience to all concerned.

I totally agree.
I dare not say any more.

Poor cat, it would be kinder to rehome it with someone who actually wants a cat.

As everyone else has said Jane52 take the cat back to your daughter and explain your health precludes you from caring for it.

This cat needs rehoming. Nobody wants the poor thing. Get in touch with your local Cat Protection or cat rescue. This poor creature deserves better.

The poor cat.

I am convinced animals know when they are unwanted. The poor cat is probably very confused.

Why can’t your dd have the cat? It is her responsibility.

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

flappergirl

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

Removing shoes is just good hygiene.

Removing loved furry family members is odd

Rehome the cat. It deserves someone who wants it and cares for it and that means getting it regularly checked by a vet, de-flead and wormed.

Her cat, her problem. Your kindness in taking the cat doesn’t sound to be appreciated. Return cat asap.

Hi Jane 52
It's a shame your DD has put you in this situation, insisting on you caring for her cat.
Sometimes we have to say NO to our AC and in this case I would have said a big fat NO.
You have health issues and I'm sure you don't need any of this stress.
You are being pressured by your family and you need to resist.
They won't like it at first but will have to accept it.
I would return the cat to your DD ASAP.
She can then decide how to deal with the poor cat.
Good luck.

flappergirl

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

Poor cat!
I had my younger daughter at home. The day she was born my lovely G P came to visit on her way home, she said (she wanted to coo over the baby) I
was in the bed with my new baby, her sister, and the two cat asleep at my feet. I apologise for the cats but she said it was fine, the baby and cats were going to live together so they should start early!

The Archers - Hilda. Just saying

Poor unloved cat. Breaks my heart when people take on pets and won’t care for and love them properly. Your DD should be ashamed of herself. She must try to rehome this kitty to someone who will care for and about it.

Will she try to offload her child as well when it becomes to much trouble.

Gillycats

This cat needs rehoming. Nobody wants the poor thing. Get in touch with your local Cat Protection or cat rescue. This poor creature deserves better.

Yes, this.
As other posters have suggested too.

How did my DD and my DIL manage with a cat, a baby and one had two dogs as well.
They must be Superwomen!

Will she try to offload her child as well when it becomes to much trouble
Possibly!