To be livid with neighbour?

No. Understandably you’re upset. Be sad for your cat.
Nothing to be gained now by confronting your neighbour with your suspicions.

Here we go

Cats will go anywhere they are fed and have no loyalty.

Why did you not try to find the cat if it was gone for two weeks?

rafichagran

Why did you not try to find the cat if it was gone for two weeks?

Friend's cat went missing for 4 months, she searched everywhere.

One day the cat strolled in again as if she'd never been away.
Then an irate woman came knocking at the door, demanding "her" cat back.
🐈

I did what your neighbour did, but it seems the OP knew where the cat was especially as she thinks the neibour has been feeding it.

I suspected it heavily that she was but could not prove it. I am so angry tonight though and do feel she is responsible. She won't know of the cats passing yet I don't imagine but when she does I hope she feels deeply ashamed

I’m sorry about your cat

However when you let animals roam these things are going to happen

Well I hope she is happy with herself.

He didn't come home for 2 weeks
He wouldn't have got that fat in two weeks.
Maybe he had been in a fight with another cat.
Were his injections up-to to-date?

I don't think you can blame your neighbour.

Sorry to hear about your cat. So sad.
Cats all roam and we have no control over them unless we keep them housebound.

One of mine was always so friendly with the neighbours that he got quite big with the extra snacks. He even stole a joint of meat a butcher had left on the doorstep of another. He even got locked in another house because he had sneaked in behind some builders who were doing it up.

Another neighbour thought I had his cat until it was found on the main road nearby.

He was rarely at home throughout the years and other neighbours only saw him briefly. I couldn't stop him going to hers but her feeding him, only if it was smaller amounts would mean that of course he would never stay at home for long.
Yes of course, all his injections were up to date. The swollen eye was a result of the flu which he could then not shake off because of her feeding him. Because she doesn't own cats she wouldn't know correct portion sizes etc and so he became too overweight to fight off a flu that healthier cats would have no problem fending off.

Inm sorry about your cat but the only way to keep them safe is to have them as "house" cats.

biglouis

Inm sorry about your cat but the only way to keep them safe is to have them as "house" cats.

Yes.
Another friend had a house cat but the one and only time she did go out se got knocked down on the road.


Cats are their own people (so to speak).

Cats are no one's slave, they are not loyal, and I love that about them.

If you suspected the cat was at your neighbours why didn't you go and bring it home.
Free roaming cats are the ban of my life and here are required to be kept on the owners property. That means inside or in an enclosure outside. Your cat your responsibility

So yes you are being unreasonable..

I am with summerlove

In the US, it is highly encouraged to keep the cats 100% indoors

My stepdaughter has a cat that takes holidays with neighbours. The first few times he went, she searched high and low for him, then she picked up on his game!
He'll happily stroll in like the king of Siam, expecting everything to be where he left it - though he did get a shock the first time as, fearing he'd died, she got rid of everything of his!
He may stop that now, though, as they have a kitten now, too, so he may decide to stay put!
But, he is a cat and cats do wander, and they happily stroll into other cat welcoming houses and eat there so, on this note, YABU!!!
Sorry, but if you didn't want him wandering you should have made him an indoor cat!

TopsyandTim

How many cats do you have??

Bit late now? Should have sorted it when the poor cat was alive.

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We have a similar problem, our cat is a real outdoor cat, not so much now he’s older, but he used to disappear for days, on one occasion weeks.
Our neighbor admits to feeding him, because she insists he’s starving, absolute rubbish. Because of another condition he’s at at the vets every few months, and he’s otherwise fine, she once rang a cat helpline and reported us for starving him.
I feel like going around and slapping her, but I won’t!

I can't see how this is your neighbours fault I would have knocked at her house and asked about him well before 2 weeks ,my Oliver goes between my house and Jim's next door if he doesn't come back after a day visiting I call and bring him home so after 2 weeks you have no reason to blame your neighbour.