Hi,
First time poster here .
My DH and I are in our early 60s and were in a friend ship group with 6 couples. We met in the local pub and have been friends for 7 years . We socialised a lot. BBQs , meals , days and nights out. Even 3 holidays .
One of the Dh is a bully , I’ll call him X , he intimidates, ridicules and belittles people. He also indulges in banter which he calls harmless but is nasty and spiteful, especially when’s he’s drinking .
A few months ago , on a boys night out , DH was on the receiving end of X banter . Those who were there said it was viscous and got personal. At some point 2 of the other DH joined in. DH was upset and angry and left .
The next day the 2 joiner ins apologised to DH and admitted they went too far. X won’t apologise as he doesn’t think he’s don’t anything wrong , he claims it was boys banter and that DH is overreacting.
This isn’t the first time that X has used DH as a verbal punchbag and he’s had enough . He wants nothing to do with X . As a result we are now excluded from the group and are back to being just pub friends . We are hurt by being a excluded especially after all this time and especially as the reason is X behaviour. The others in the group are aware of X behaviour and are excusing it because that’s X and that’s what he does .
Personally I feel you shouldn’t make excuses for the behaviour of a 63 year old man .
DH and myself have excepted that the friendship group has finished and are moving on, luckily we have other friends, unfortunately not as local .
I’m 62 and have only experienced this sort of behaviour at school . Have others experienced this ? And what did you do ?
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic
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