im going insane please help

Get an appointment with the menopause clinic ,you're GP can arrange it.They can find HRT to suit you .When you get one that works you'll get your life back.

GP's aren't trained to deal with meopause ,you need a specialist .
Good luck .

Sorry you are going through this, I had a hell of a time with the menopause too but wasn't allowed HRT as I'd been a smoker

I'm glad to hear there is a menopause clinic @paddyann54, about time.

You may have to fight to stay on HRT, your GP will try to convince you to come off it in time, do not, every thing goes downhill quickly. I regret coming off it, and when I see all the celebrities on TV who are my age, even more so. GPs do not like paying for HRT , but if it keeps you well it is cost effective.

Another vote for sorting out your HRT. If you think things are bad now just wait for 20 years when, without oestrogen, the real results of lack of oestrogen kicks in, Vaginal atrophy, Incontinence, Osteoporosis, etc. etc.

I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time asd. When the menopause hit, I felt exactly the same , in fact I thought I had some dreadful life threatening condition ?. I have been on hrt for many years, the first didn't work, the second changed my life, I had the old me back. Go back to doc's, they will give you some others to try, keep at it , it's so worth it.

Agree with Espee and Vito.

asd123, that all sounds par for the course of menopause. It will all go away eventually. I just got on with it without HRT - and had this picture above my desk!

Hetty58. I mentioned in my earlier post the worst thing about the menopause is the long term problems of oestrogen deprivation.
As a friend who chose to accept the menopause explained to me - hot flushes, mood changes, brain fog, sleep problems etc. on looking back were nothing compared to the situation she now finds herself in with crumbling bones, vaginal atrophy, and stress incontinence.
It has caused the breakdown of her marriage and she doesn’t feel confident going out due to the incontinence and fear of falling and breaking her hip.
She was most adamant at the time of going through the menopause “naturally”. Now she looks and acts like she is old enough to be my mother.
Medical science has given us the ability to live a full life by replacing the missing oestrogen, just as people take insulin for diabetes and thyroxine for an under active thyroid.

asd
All you are writing sounds very typical of menopause. Just because it is typical does not make it acceptable. Please go back to your doctors and ask for help from a menopause nurse/GP
I don’t take HRT for personal reasons and I suffer ups and downs but I work on my diet to help me with that, lots of soya and as much healthy food as I can muster. Exercise is also a wonderful way to relieve a lot of your problems.
Don’t accept that this is all ok, also try to keep positive and open up communication with your DH to try to get him to understand how you are feeling, difficult to explain, I know. I wrote a letter to my husband and he did change his attitude to me ever so slightly but over the years I have kept that communication open and he is slowly getting it❤️ Talk to people about how you are feeling and don’t feel embarrassed when you do that, apologise to people you have upset and talk to them about how you feel . Take care of yourself and fall in love with your chubby tummy, it will help.❤️

Just one more thing I have learned to do over the years is “*Laugh at myself*” that sounds odd, but it really has helped with my brain fog and irritable nature sometimes.

Morning ladies...1m 64 and suffering the most horrid vaginal discomfort...Would be glad of any suggestions or tips that I could use to ease this....

Get your GP to do a complete health check. Lots of bloods including VitD checks, folate etc. You may need supplements. Buy lavender sleep sprays for your pillow/bedroom. Join a relaxation, meditation or Tai-chi class or all three. Anything which teaches mediation techniques you can practice when you feel stressed or wake at night.
I went through the menopause 20+ years ago. I was checked and treated for osteoporosis just before it started. I haven't taken medication since that treatment stopped. I did Tai-chi for years before lockdown. I'm now doing Pilates. I don't have any of the conditions Espee insists are inevitable for those who don't take HRT. I do take Calcium, Vit D and fish oil supplements and occasionally need folate for my blood. I do think everyone needs some supplements and exercise as they get older to maintain muscle function and prevent things like incontinence.

Mine

Morning ladies...1m 64 and suffering the most horrid vaginal discomfort...Would be glad of any suggestions or tips that I could use to ease this....

Do see your GP Mine. it sounds as though you have vaginal atrophy but it could be other things so seeing a doctor is essential.
If it is vaginal atrophy the most likely treatment is a little pellet of oestrogen which you insert once a day for 14 days then twice a week thereafter plus a vaginal lubricant.
I have no idea how long it takes to work but the friends who use it swear it has changed their lives.
A tip…….both friends found they did not like the applicator (as it didn’t release the pellet easily) and simply insert the tiny pellet with their finger.

Just thought be aware that folate deficiency can have very similar symptoms to the menopause things like confusion and depression. www.nhs.uk/conditions/vitamin-b12-or-folate-deficiency-anaemia/symptom

If you have a healthy diet there should be no need for supplements.

Esspee

If you have a healthy diet there should be no need for supplements.

This is out of date advice. All adults in the UK are now advised to take a Vit D supplement in the winter www.nhs.uk/conditions/vitamins-and-minerals/vitamin-d/

I’m getting mine now trisher the natural way.

Think twice about HRT, I suffered unbearable symptoms of menopause at aged 42, After a few months, trying natural remedies, i went on HRT, after about 16/17 years I wanted to come off it .Doc said he couldn't predict how my body would react Guess what..... I had then to go through another menopause !!
Apparently a lot of people experience this ,going through 2 menopause's .

NanaAng14 no need to come off HRT ,most specialists will tell you that its fine to take it for life .My sister is almost 75 she's een on it for nearly 30 years with no problems and I've been on these patches for 10 years but had several pill HRT over the 10+ years before that .I have no intention of giving it up.

I’ve been on oestrogen implants for over 30 years now and nothing will stop me being on HRT for the rest of my life so I will have avoided having any menopause at all, far less two. NanaAng14

Out of curiosity and because there was a massive tape measure to hand and a soon to be decorated wall I measured my height and was quite astonished - nay horrified!

I was 5ft 4in I’m now 5ft 2 ?

Morning ladies...Seen GP this morning regarding my horrid vaginal burning & pain....After examination and lots of questions GP suggested oestrogen pesseries...Exactly as you said ESSPEE...So glad I posted on this site....Thanks ladies for your suggestions...Much appreciated

I dont think anyone has mentioned Dr Louise Newson, a GP and menopause specialist who has written a couple of books on the Menopause which I found really helpful. She runs a menopause clinic and has a podcast too. It’s worth looking her up.
When my GP wanted to stop my oestrogen gel I went armed with information and evidence from Dr Newson, and my GP agreed without a ?. I also use vaginfem.
Dr Newson runs a clinic in Stratford on Avon which is a centre of excellence. The downside is it’s private but you don’t need GP referral and can have online appts.

Thanks Farzanah...I will go online and look up Dr Newsons book tonight.