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Is it the start of dementia?

(2 Posts)
ExDancer Wed 14-Sep-22 22:27:26

How do you proceed if your husband shows signs of dementia? He's just spent 2 hrs on the phone to 'Microsoft' and given them details of their bank account, for instance?
(There was only £400 in it - which they can't afford to loose) - as they'd just paid a big bill) and she rang the bank who cancelled their cards and prevented anyone accessing the account. They, the bank, did say an attempt had been made but the scammers had made them suspicious because they'd tried to transfer the whole amount down to the last penny.
Husband refuses to talk about it and blames the wife for interfering, as their cards are useless until the new ones are sent.
He's already done other strange things like buying things from Amazon and forgetting about them, he bought 3 identical pairs of walking boots, and recently refused to go on a holiday on the morning of the flight.
He won't see the doctor about anything, for example his knee keeps collapsing so he almost falls, he won't get his eyes tested incase its cataracts, he sits on the loo talking to himself, leaves taps running - various examples of odd and worrying behaviour.
Could she speak to his GP about her worries without the GP letting him know? She's terrified he might find out she's gone behind his back and consulted the surgery because he gets frighteningly angry - not physically, but can say some vile things when riled.
Where does she go for help?

ExDancer Wed 14-Sep-22 22:32:02

I've managed to post this twice - Admin please cancel this post as people have already replied to the original.