My son and his partner gave us a darling grandson in October 17, he is our first grandchild and we were initially shocked as my hubby and I had given up hoping as they were both 40yrs old. Can't tell you how delighted we were . But my sons partner didn't want him, wasn't on her agenda, I told her I would support them and offer advice and that they only had to ask. Throughout pregnancy she moaned and groaned , her mother offered advice which she took as gospel with some very bizzar ideas. I have had three children , three c sections, and a paediatric nurse. Never once have they asked for advice, he has eczema quite badly I suggested several creams ointments etc, reply was we will deal with it. Went to Drs who prescribed exactly what I suggested. They then said we were weird because we took photos of him when we saw him which was every few weeks. Her parents saw him every few days, they have to pass our road to get to her parents! We feel very left out,but then they struggled as she went back to work and could only get two days nursery so we asked if we could help out oh yes two days a week! We love having him and cherish each and every moment, this nearly came to a end last May as I had two massive heart attacks. I could rant on because we feel used but wouldn't have it any other way because we love the little darling so much. I remind myself to SUMO, shut up and move on! Good luck and congratulations.