Hello everyone,
Over the last 4 years we have had very little contact with our adult son, & his contact with other family & friends has been much reduced too. He has changed enormously since meeting his (now) wife, & they live quite an insular life, mostly just seeing her family. I reacted badly to him pulling away from everyone, & said/relayed some pretty hard-hitting and unkind things to him, & so most of his antipathy is towards me rather than his father. I completely understand that & have tried my best to make amends but am not really getting anywhere. My husband has been totally supportive of me & now refuses to see him without me, after doing so a few times to see whether he could pave the way to a reconciliation between us all.
But I am very aware that several of my son's contemporaries have unexpectedly lost their fathers over the last few years, & I feel extremely guilty for my son & husband not having a relationship when the loss of contact was largely down to me.
So, has anyone ever successfully had a situation where the father has an ongoing relationship but not the mother, or did it cause problems? I must stress that my husband refuses to entertain this idea as he thinks that our son has acted very badly, but maybe I could persuade him, for both their sakes', if I knew that it could be done successfully. I am devastated at the idea that my son is living without his father, and vice versa, when maybe they don't need to....
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