What is this forum for?

Joane123

lemsip

DHH7 Mon 28-Mar-22 11:02:50

So NOT new here .

Why would you do that though?
It makes people feel unwelcome as if this is some sort of "closed" club (which it isn't).

Because there are any number of Posters who are obvious trolls/weirdos/scammers. Yesterday TopsyandTim was a prime example. Posts something that has no bearing on their previous posts here. I often look back at a poster's previous post to see if they seem genuine or are just wasting their time (and ours).

Hi, I have found Karl Pillemer's book 'Faultlines: Fractured Families and how to mend them' very helpful and readable.

DHH7

I’m new here. Is this forum for parents and grandparents of estranged adult children, as in they’re the ones who walked away, or is this for those children to tell us how awful we are, or both? Thanks.

There are many types of estrangement/part estrangements of all sorts, and involving different relatives.

Some people have and do act very badly towards their relatives, but it's not confined to one group.?

I just googled to find out more about the "Billy Plays" and it brought my post up on GN ?.

Search always works for me though.

lemsip

google user name and gransnet, that's all. No suspicion.
the op is welcome new or not.

you can google your own user name and gransnet and it will pop up if you've been on here.

I learnt something new today! Gransnet search box has rarely worked well for me but searching using Google as lemsip suggests above, works better.

That's you told, Kircubbin!

MerylStreep

Kircubbin
What do you think the search box is for?

I have tried to search once before and it didn't work.I'll know in future thank you.?

This thread is really tetchy!

MerylStreep

This is the problem when the correct word isn’t used.
The OP asked if this forum was for etc. This whole site is the forum, within that you have different threads

Forum; subforum or board; thread; post

Gransnet does seem to use the word ‘forum’ incorrectly.

Joane123

lemsip

DHH7 Mon 28-Mar-22 11:02:50

So NOT new here .

Why would you do that though?
It makes people feel unwelcome as if this is some sort of "closed" club (which it isn't).

Why?

MerylStreep

Kircubbin
What do you think the search box is for?

Meryl The search function has never, ever worked at all for me.
I’m far from the only one.

This is the problem when the correct word isn’t used.
The OP asked if this forum was for etc. This whole site is the forum, within that you have different threads

Previous post is on estrangement... looks OK, nothing unwelcoming

Kircubbin
What do you think the search box is for?

Norah

Seems to be for estrangers and those estranged by others.

I doubt there is much from children saying anything awful.

Oh, you’d be surprised

I think that if I’d joined in March and not posted much, I’d still consider myself quite new.

lemsip do you do that with everyone?
Of course you were suspicious

Seems to be for estrangers and those estranged by others.

I doubt there is much from children saying anything awful.

Smileless2012

Maybe the OP was referring to being new to the estrangement forum, not GN.

That is exactly my understanding too.

lemsip

DHH7 Mon 28-Mar-22 11:02:50

So NOT new here .

Why would you do that though?
It makes people feel unwelcome as if this is some sort of "closed" club (which it isn't).

It is a topic heading "Estrangement" so covers any estrangement. No matter who someone is estranged from or whether they are the one who was estranged or the one who did the estranging.

Individual threads break it up into smaller sub subjects that may be general, as in support or may cover different tyoes of scenarios or individual situations.

So you can pick and choose what threads are right for you and your situation. Or maybe what threads you feel you can receive and show support on.

"Is it for those children to tell us how awful we are"

Adult children who have estranged a parent also use this forum. They are talking about their own family dynamics not anyone else's.

It might be useful at times to read threads that talk about behaviours others did not like and walked away from if you think that is something that might help you to resolution.

Anyone offering kindness and support is generally welcome on any thread as far as I can tell

google user name and gransnet, that's all. No suspicion.
the op is welcome new or not.

you can google your own user name and gransnet and it will pop up if you've been on here.

Maybe the OP was referring to being new to the estrangement forum, not GN.

lemsip

DHH7 Mon 28-Mar-22 11:02:50

So NOT new here .

How did you find that Lemsip? And what made you suspicious?

Welcome DHH7 - this forum is for the estranged and the ‘estranger’ , although a large percentage are estranged parents and grandparents, who come on here to share their experiences and support one another. Although I am not estranged as such, I have had difficult relationships…

I thought I recognised the name