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Is it friendlier Up North?

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DaisyAlice Wed 07-Dec-22 13:40:40

Today's UK Loose Women programme decided that people are more friendly in the North than South. I live in the South of the South, lucky enough to have a view of The Isle of Wight. I'm always surprised that some media only consider that London is South. I find people very friendly where I live, as does my friend who lives in Leeds. Surely, there are friendly people everywhere.

Aveline Wed 07-Dec-22 13:47:23

Yes. Friendly people find other friendly people everywhere. It's up to individuals not geography.

Gabrielle56 Wed 07-Dec-22 13:52:45

Yes.next question 😅

lefthanded Wed 07-Dec-22 14:05:27

I used to work with a chap who was Ugandan. In the coffee room one day I asked him how he came to be in Cardiff. His reply was that his passage to the UK was arranged by a Ugandan charity that had UK bases in London, Glasgow and Cardiff. He knew nothing about the regions of the UK at the time, so he contacted someone he knew who was already here. Their reply was “Don't worry about the weather - wherever you go in the UK you’ll be cold. Don’t go to London. London people are not like us - nobody has time to stand and chat. Glasgow is OK. People are friendly enough but you won’t understand a word they say. Go to Cardiff - people are friendly and can be understood”.

So he came to Cardiff. And twenty-odd years later he’s still here. .

Blossoming Wed 07-Dec-22 14:14:08

Yes smile

MerylStreep Wed 07-Dec-22 14:16:57

Aveline

Yes. Friendly people find other friendly people everywhere. It's up to individuals not geography.

That’s it 😄

Yammy Wed 07-Dec-22 14:30:18

Having never lived any further south than Leicester all I can say is some parts of the North are more friendly than others.
The North East, including Newcastle and Durham, are the two most friendly places I have ever lived or worked even my home county.
Other parts of the North are suspicious until they know you and then they can be friendly.
I think the Geordies and I use that as an inclusive word taught me to laugh at myself, joke about awful things to keep going, were welcoming and always be willing to chat in a shop a queue or a bus stop.
Having said that both my DDs live in the South now and have lots of good friends, so I think if you approach people with an open attitude they are more likely to be friendly with you.
My attitude to people certainly changed after living there.
I can't speak for the rest of the country but when visiting Wales, Scotland and Ireland I have found the people helpful and chatty even though I was called a BRIT in Southern Ireland and refused service at the Post Office some years ago.

Kate1949 Wed 07-Dec-22 14:37:16

Us Brummies are friendly smile

Fleurpepper Wed 07-Dec-22 14:37:41

We had great friends when we lived in London. But when we moved to the Potteries, we were amazed how friendly people were, and same later in the East Midlands. Never lived in the 'North' though.

But agree with Aveline.

LauraNorderr Wed 07-Dec-22 14:42:38

Agree with Aveline. If you’re friendly and smiley, cheerful and optimistic it comes back at you in spades.
Behaviour breeds behaviour.

Grandma70s Wed 07-Dec-22 14:44:49

I’ve lived as far north as Edinburgh and as far south as London, and some places in between. I think they are all much the same - the degree of ‘friendliness’ reflects your own. I found Edinburgh the least friendly, but I was very unhappy there for other reasons. I don’t think it was the fault of the people.

kittylester Wed 07-Dec-22 14:46:47

I was going to mention Leicester (and Leicestershire) as being very friendly. I originate from Derby which is really friendly too. Nottinghamshire is not so friendly.

We moved to Shrewsbury soon after we married and the first thing we were asked was 'Do you hunt?' Next question was 'Do you shoot?', Then 'Do you fish?'. As we did none of those things it was the end of the conversation.

NotSpaghetti Wed 07-Dec-22 14:47:30

Don't want to comment as got told off once before on a similar topic!

NotSpaghetti Wed 07-Dec-22 14:48:15

(But yes!) 🤭

Whitewavemark2 Wed 07-Dec-22 15:15:51

No of course not. People don’t change character just because they live in the south.

It takes me ages when I go walking with the dog because there is so much chat going on with everyone I meet.

Our neighbours are a really friendly group. A group of 5 couples plus a couple of widows meet up regularly for a get together. We go out to stuff - restaurant, “dos” etc or meet up in each other’s house. Our next meet up,is Christmas Eve - everyone to take some food. A jolly time is had by all.

I live within a stones throw of Brighton.

ShazzaKanazza Wed 07-Dec-22 15:26:15

When my daughter went to stage school in London they said they always love the Yorkshire girls as they are very friendly and down to earth.
I find most places friendly but I’m friendly.

AreWeThereYet Wed 07-Dec-22 15:26:25

No. People are just people. Anyway, I know loads of northerners (hello Mr A from Durham) who are in the south, and southerners who are in the north. Half my family is from Scotland, half from England. We have lived in the south for 40 years (20 years in London) and have friends from all over the country. SiL in Durham has some very nasty and aggressive neighbours. MiL in Durham once said her near neighbours were like family.

henetha Wed 07-Dec-22 15:37:24

No. Friendly or unfriendly people are distributed evenly. And good or bad people. And clever or stupid people.
Sweeping generalisation is wrong imho.

merlotgran Wed 07-Dec-22 15:50:52

DaisyAlice

Today's UK Loose Women programme decided that people are more friendly in the North than South. I live in the South of the South, lucky enough to have a view of The Isle of Wight. I'm always surprised that some media only consider that London is South. I find people very friendly where I live, as does my friend who lives in Leeds. Surely, there are friendly people everywhere.

I live in the same area, DaisyAlice having moved back to the south coast after living in East Anglia for fifty years.

Suffolk - friendly, Norfolk - even more so but North East Cambridgeshire? Well, they don’t call them Fen Tigers for nothing!

I’d forgotten how friendly everyone is down here. I wish I’d moved back years ago.

Septimia Wed 07-Dec-22 15:53:23

I think people in the South are less inclined to start a conversation with someone they don't know than people in the North. In the North you can find yourself chatting to complete strangers at a bus stop or in the doctor's waiting room (or you could when they were busy before Covid).

But there are friendly and kind people all over the country, it's just that they're more reserved in some places and, as Grandma70s says, it also depends on how friendly you are yourself.

MacCavity2 Wed 07-Dec-22 16:09:52

DaisyAlice and Merlotgran that’s three of us now with a view of the Isle of Wight. I’ve lived in London and Kent but this is the friendliest place I have had the good luck to live. The New Forest and the sea. Wonderful.

Curlywhirly Wed 07-Dec-22 16:13:30

I agree that if you are friendly, other people will respond to you where ever you are. However when our son was living in London (we are from the northwest) and we were getting into a taxi after having a meal in a restaurant with him, I was surprised that the taxi driver said that he couldn't believe how friendly we were (I was apologising for keeping him waiting for a couple of minutes as our 3 year old granddaughter had decided to take her shoes off and her dad was trying to coax her back into them!). My husband was also chatting to him (asking him where he was from no less!) He was from Afghanistan and proudly showed us pictures of his children and wife. He said that usually any fares he picked up never spoke and rarely even thanked him. He even said he wouldn't take any money from us as he was so pleased to pick up such a friendly family (we of course insisted he take the money). Where we are from it is very usual to have a quick chat with taxi drivers and most certainly to thank them.

Grammaretto Wed 07-Dec-22 16:38:11

Yes and no!
I lived in Edinburgh for 5 years and was only ever invited into 3 neighbours' houses. One was from Glasgow, one Yorkshire and one from Wales
My other neighbours were local and the explanation for their reserve was that nothing was ever spontaneous. Their house would be messy (clarty) so they would think you would be judging them

Most of my friends here in the Scottish Borders are incomers like myself

Aveline Wed 07-Dec-22 16:41:04

Some of my best chats are with taxi drivers! I often have great conversations at bus stops and on the bus. We know all our neighbours and frequently socialise with them. In Edinburgh.

Visgir1 Wed 07-Dec-22 16:44:00

MacCavity2

*DaisyAlice and Merlotgran* that’s three of us now with a view of the Isle of Wight. I’ve lived in London and Kent but this is the friendliest place I have had the good luck to live. The New Forest and the sea. Wonderful.

I'm only a stones throw from that view as well, but from The Hill.
I'm someone who starts a conversation, never had a problem.