Hi,I am really struggling with this one.My dad died 15 months ago,strange how i can type it talk about certain things without getting in a state i think because like my mum we have not accepted dad has gone,he is in my head seems like 24/7 i lay in bed talking to him saying if you are here dad touch my hand etc bonkers i know,but my issue is mum she is 80 this year her and dad were married 61 years and he did everything for her and now i do,which is hard as well,but she talks and talks about how dad died etc and she is convinced that they made an error at the hospital and they tried to cover it up,i did contact the hospital for her just to have an email or something of the a to z of dads treatment etc and they have said kindly that it is complicated and be easier to arrange a meeting and they would answer any questions,mum wants me to go she can't face it,i would go in with the list of questions we have,no blame nothing will bring dad back just so we can understand what happened,we did not expect him to die he went in for stents,ended up with a triple bypass and never came around from the operation,after the operation there was a time where there was an issue and they had 30 minutes while the got the doctor needed to sort out the proplem mum thinks that did it,my question is should i go to the hospital to get the details she wants of leave it and try to accept dad has gone,we are not thinking of making a complaint or anything just mum wants peace of mind i guess but part of me says let it go and the other part says this was your dad he deserves you to do something,i know what dad would do if it was me he would never let it go,so what do i do.After dad died a few months later mum found a note he had written saying he loved her,but he didn't think he had long left etc it was heartbreaking mum has it framed next to her bed he also said remember i had a good life,and the few days before his op he said to me remember i have had a good life.It hard to know what to do.Sorry to be a pain i know i am.
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