My son is 37 years old. For a backstory, when I split up with his dad he intimidated me into letting him keep the three boys. He then moved to Scotland which made it really difficult to see them and even when I took him to court the judge took his side I suspect because I was English. . It took a long time because the law is different in Scotland. I was bereft and had another baby with my new partner, we didn’t have much money but I managed to travel,up there a couple of times to see them. Then I got a devestating letter from my ex husband saying I wasn’t to contact him any more. That was when I instigated the court case but the Scottish judge was not on my side. I should explain that I have since found out that I am on the autistic spectrum. Anyway my son contacted me aged 15 to say he wanted to live with me. I was overjoyed and drove up there immediately to collect him. He was very quiet to begin with but then he got a job in a pub and started to make friends. At the age of 18 he met a girl and in due course they got married and had two children. For a few years I thought he was happy but then he turned up at my house one day and said he didn’t want to be with her any more. He had financial issues after he left, I loaned him ten grand to pay off his debts and he had paid back around half of it. Then he moved into a flat with his girlfriend but he was terrible with money still, developed a cocaine habit and was always broke.So him and his girlfriend who is absolutely lovely have given up their flat and my son has moved back. I told him he needed to give me £50 a week just to cover the extra expenses (money docked from my benefits because I care for my adult autistic son. I didn’t want to pretend he wasn’t here because he needs to be on the electoral roll to get a house whether rented, bought or shared ownership. I told him he only needed to pay what was reduced on my UC and council tax benefit, plus bills. I figured £200 a month would cover everything.he get paid weekly and he paid me for the first week but when the following week rolled around I got nothing. He is fobbing me off and it’s affecting my anxiety. Any advice would be appreciated.
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