Arggggghhhh! I need to vent! We live 25 mins from mil. She has 3 adult children. My husband, his older sister and younger brother. They both live 300 miles away. All her care has fallen to us for the last 30 years. There are infrequent, occasional visits from the other two, as and when it suits them, and only for a few days at a time from one, and a couple of weeks from the other. Christmases are always a nightmare. We feel it’s reasonable, being here all the time, to let one or other sibling cover Christmas. She’s now too old to travel to them. Every single year there are arguments as to why one or other sibling can’t do it. This year is no exception, except that having hosted her last year, we said we would be going to my family this year. Sil agreed. Now it transpires she has ruled herself out, saying her mum really wants a family to spend Christmas with. Bil is too unfit to come. The worst of it is that she has been told we are not available this year, but has now browbeaten my husband with threats of disinheritance and the family looking badly on him unless he spends Christmas with her. She feels she should be the priority, and has said as much. Not only do I think one of the siblings should spend Christmas with her, but that they should be volunteering in view of the fact we’re here the rest of the time. However, she is 98, and these threats have become all too frequent when she’s trying to force my husband to do something she wants. AIBU?
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