Silverfish Not all men are the same and like you I have been off them for quite a while now. But I do get lonely, my son in his room and me by myself watching tele at night so would like some company, a laugh etc. I do know what you mean though about them getting complacent and lounging around. I'll probably keep my eye open for a younger model and see if he is any different.
Gilly I thought I'd read that you are were secretly working at an engineering firm, I thought you were some sort of spy. Made myself laugh, at least. Sorry to hear about your second husband. Your sister does sound as though she has a very thorough list of what she is looking for, maybe she just wants to be choosy, although my friend of 35 years is now married to her second husband, small, roundish and bald but is the loveliest man you could wish to meet. So much nicer than her first husband who was moody all the time. I think age brings with it, for some at least, fussiness and being picky. I don't want to date anyone who wears suits for a job, much prefer the manual type (it's all those rippling muscles!). I want someone who is kind, quick to laugh and is good to his family. Other appearances are of no concern.
It's nearly (in December) 14 years since I divorced. I was married 16 years, together 19. I think the time is right now to be available for another relationship. I think we can close ourselves off, which is what I have done while my son needed more attention but he leaves for uni in two years so I really don't want to be alone then. My primary school teacher said that to put me in a room on my own would drive me nuts and I'm no different now although I do like my own company sometimes, just not 24/7. Maybe that's why I'm building the menagerie up, one dog, two budgies.