Yes, it is a dilemma, but one that needs to be tackled. As Mishap has pointed out, failure to get to grips with this issue would ave serious repercussions.
No one wants another 7/7.
Links are being forged between the Muslim community in Birmingham and the police, which is a start. But watching these meetings on the local news most of the attendees are Muslim elders. I don't think these young men have the same respect for the older Immans and community leaders any more.
They want action, uniforms, guns and A Cause. Much in the same way young British men flocked to sign up at the outbreak of WW1. How can we hope to compete it this fervour?