Hello - been busy with DH and walking the dog etc etc.
Yes I have been giving it some more thought over the weekend and think maybe phobia was the wrong way to describe it, but when his back twinges he goes into a complete state of panic and I can't get any sense from him. I think he hyperventilates because he frequently passes out. This time he refused to move from the bed because he was so frightened and so contracted pneumonia.
No he never has had a diagnosis - this has been going on for 4 years and he has only ever been given strong painkillers and diasipan (spelling!) and some other relaxant but it isn't the answer , and I worry about all the drugs - the hospital suggested to his GP that she may like to think of a scan, so if she doesn't follow it through I will ask if we could pay for one - not sure how much it is though.
This fear is only centred on his back and absolutely nothing else, e.g. heart failure he has dealt with in a totally laid back way, and anything else like the pneumonia at the moment he potters along content to do everything correctly to get rid of it.
So maybe relaxation therapy, or some such thing but it can't go on like this as it is all consuming and making his life miserable.
Watch this space folks!
Good to have all the support though.